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In the spirit of love's season and following the release of Season Two from Netflix’s Love on the Spectrum, Dani Bowman – a star of the series alongside expert coach Jennifer Cook and host Eileen Lamb, tackled intimate conversations around dating and relationships within neurodiversity.
Their discussion centered on key concepts such as open communication, being curious about each other, understanding emotions, taking rejection gracefully, mntning healthy boundaries, and discussing intimacy. The group shared advice based on the unique challenges faced by individuals with autism when navigating romantic relationships.
Eileen, Jennifer, and Dani stressed that clear communication lies at the heart of every relationship – both romantic ones and those between people from different neurodiversity backgrounds. Whether you're part of a neurotypical or neurodiverse couple, it's crucial to empower oneself to express needs and feelings honestly.
In addition to communication, curiosity plays an important role in mntning and growing relationships. This means going beyond superficial get-to-know-you questions and delving into what makes your partner tick. Try new activities together that might challenge comfort zones and encourage growth both individually and as a couple.
Differentiating between feelings and thoughts is often challenging for individuals on the autism spectrum, particularly when it comes to identifying emotions correctly. Jennifer explned that our feelings are never wrong; they’re always worth exploring. It’s crucial to understand what triggers certn emotional responses and communicate them effectively.
Jennifer highlighted that not taking rejection personally when someone distances themselves or stops communicating is essential. Everyone deserves respect and honest communication, but it's important to avoid attaching personal value judgments if “ghosting” occurs – the act of ceasing all contact without explanation.
Eileen suggested surrounding oneself with seeing eye fris who accept you at your best and worst before entering into romantic relationships. This means knowing whom to rely on for truthful feedback about yourself, which can help in preparing emotionally for potential rejection or disappointment.
Understanding how others perceive you can be challenging, especially when it comes from someone with autism. It’s important not to “overgeneralize” rejection as everyone perceives and interprets social interactions differently. Recognizing that rejection isn’t a reflection of personal worth can d in emotional resilience.
Dani emphasized the importance of taking time before expressing feelings about relationships, suggesting three dates as a benchmark. This can help avoid rushing through stages of friship and intimacy, which neurotypical individuals often understand intuitively but can be more complex for those on the autism spectrum.
Openly discussing intimacy ensures that both partners are comfortable with each other's boundaries, expectations, and needs. It’s essential to keep communication clear about what feels appropriate or necessary throughout different stages of relationships.
To delve deeper into navigating love within neurodiversity or to hear more insights from Eileen, Dani, and Jennifer in full, watch the episode “Adulting on the Spectrum: Love on the Spectrum” for an expanded discussion.
Further Reading
Eileen's Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, The Autism Cafe
Jennifer's website, Instagram
Dani's DaniMation website, Personal website, Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, LinkedIn, Twitter, YouTube
Additional Resources Tools:
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Loving on the Spectrum: Tips for Dating on the Spectrum
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Autism and Marriage
Autistic Adults and Transitioning Relationships
Adulting on the Spectrum: Love on the Spectrum Podcast
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A parent's perspective
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